Pride is when one stands their ground and knows their self worth. It’s something that everyone has that it can come when you least expect it. When it comes to love, it’s best to leave your pride at the door. From my past, I always had a problem when it came to pride, money, and self worth. An example would be, my boyfriend asks hey let’s go on vacation to Taiwan and you can meet my family who lives there and such. It’s not that I wouldn’t want to meet his family, it’s more of I don’t have the money right now. I’m not worth meeting your family. So that is your pride refusing to budge because well you feel you have to earn the money to be worth it to meet his family. He would find it insulting on the refusal and you just missed out on opportunity of experience and getting your relationship closer with just being able to do that.
The thing with pride is, you should be proud with the partner you have. You should be proud to show them off your arm and hold their hand. You can showcase them on your social media if you’d like as long as you do not feel insecure about nosey relatives talking about who this and that is on your next family gathering with your immediate family folks. Sometimes having pride in that partner can take time to be established. Honestly time can change a lot of things. Let’s say your partner was pretty rich and well established and very high and well known. You’d be proud to have them on your arm right? Well let’s say out of nowhere, the next day, they no longer carry that materialistic reputation of money because they just got bankrupt somehow and now your lifestyle has to change because you live with them. You can’t go to the spa as often as you did. You can’t go galas, fashion shows, small get together parties with high status people, nor do very luxurious lavish events you once attended. What a shallow way of thinking that materialism is what makes you to be proud of your partner..but anyways, would you feel shame for being with that partner now things have taken a downfall? Or would you still feel pride in being with him/her because he/she is a good person? Arguments, conflicts etc. ensue. If it really was love, you would not care thick or thin of what your person had. You would be although proud if and when she/he had their time to bounce back to some kind of middle ground after losing it all. Your pride needs to be left at the door.
In love, you need to be open to the challenges. You need to be open to the experiences. You have to have the trust that your partner can catch you when you fall. When it comes to relationships, the walls are thinned down and vulnerability is shown. It’s just between you and the other person. Once and a while when things have turned for the worst, you ask friends and family advice but it also depends on who you speak with and trust. Also these people’s experiences is key. You would probably trust a person who is older that has had more than 3 or 4 long term relationships than someone who has had 3 or 4 short term ones. Also, a younger person is still maturing in age and is still trying to find their place in the world and in need of guidance more than you asking him/her for help. Sometimes people have intent to destroy one’s relationship. I remember a few people who I confided my troubles to and it wasn’t for the best. One girl had feelings for one of my boyfriends and talked badly about me to him at some point when I wasn’t around. Another had feelings as well for some guy I had picked interest in and she moved on forward to pursue him. It’s scary how humans can be such, but it is where you learn lessons…Your relationship should not be affected by other people and their opinions. They are not the ones in your relationship as well they do not know the full and whole story. They as well do not have the emotions when you were in the relationship itself. If you love that person, you wouldn’t care what others think overall about it. You know your partner better than anyone. It’s quite sad when other’s opinions can overshadow one’s belief in a relationship. This is possibly a case scenario time where one loses pride in their partner because of others.
When it comes to fights in relationships, pride for sure can be a problem. Like I’m right, you’re wrong. There can be times to agree to disagree or compromise. When it comes to one person thinking I’m right all the time and you’re always wrong. Their pride is too strong and the other person could possibly feel insecure, dissatisfied, unhappy, and just want to wallow in the corner and not deal with the other. It can even be some form of abuse when it gets to that point. You never know. I would say pride can really destroy relationships. I guess it depends on how you use it. But as I reiterate, one’s pride should just be left at the door.
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